Don't Give Into Separation. It Only Reinforces It - Take Your Stand As Open Oneness.
Common Causes Of Bodily Contractions In The Torso Area
Previous embodied Trauma being triggered by primitive pattern recognition of present events
Physical illness
Hunger
Sexual desire
A need for social contact
Loss or disruption to a relationship
Intellectual Disorientation
Neurological diversity, such as Autism, in certain situations
Common Separation Beliefs and associated emotional reactions triggered from the mind about bodily contractions in the torso area.
Freeze Emotional Reactions: Typically shame and guilt in particular: Associated beliefs: I am a separate person being punished for something I have done or am wrong. Typical Reactions: Close down all activity, disrupted sleep leading to further loss of basic needs and increasing anxiety and depression potentially
Fight and Flight Emotional Reactions: Typically fear and anger in particular: Associated belief: I am a separate person, not safe, and must try, and I need a total fix as quickly as possible. Typical Reactions: Exhausting mental rumination, avoidant and emotionally driven actions, disrupted sleep leading to further loss of basic needs and increasing anxiety and depression potentially
Tend and befriend Emotional Reactions: Typically fear and loneliness in particular: Associated belief: I am a separate person and am not worthy of love because there is something wrong with me (not good looking enough, intelligent enough, rich enough etc.) and I need to gain the approval of others in order to achieve love.
Solution
Ask yourself if you know, based on your actual experience of awareness, not a belief, if you have any actual evidence you really are a separate person or not (more specifically – do you identify this awareness as being yourself / What evidence do you have that this aware self is being generated by or limited your physical body and mind? / if you can find no evidence can you open the possibility that this awareness self could be universal and not personal and the container of all things?
If you find out that you don’t know and can see this is the absolute truth, then use this truth to confront any other thought that tells you are a separate person, whatever the contents of the thought and see how the thought vanishes in the light of this certainty. They cannot be sustained.
Let go of any emotional resistance to the present physical contraction and welcome it as part of you, and do not feel threatened by it in any way.
Document any thoughts that occur to you spontaneously without analysing – memories of past events (that may be traumatic) or thoughts about a physical, social or orientational need that may be desirable to meet (I need to eat, exercise, have some intimacy, meet a friend etc.). Do not pay attention to any other thoughts if they are telling you that you are a separate person (treat these as all false thoughts). If obviously traumatic thoughts occur, do not dwell on them, but if necessary, recognise the injury and seek the best de-traumatisation therapy you can find.
Patiently allow the bodily contraction to De-contract in its own time – no matter how long it takes – say to yourself. “even if it takes forever”. Do not follow any thought that tells you to try and get rid of this contraction. If you do, you will fall into resistance again. If you do this, do not compound the problem by telling yourself off – acknowledge what has happened and return to non-judgemental acceptance.
Continue to remain present with this experience, using breath, yoga and another physical exercise to help you keep calm and present and send healing into the contraction.
If you can continue to focus outwards on constructive activity that is not seeking to gain happiness in some way from the world, then you are doing all the above well. If you are ruminating inwards and unable to focus on activities or taking action in the hope of becoming happy, revisit the above until you can.
If you desire to be free - don’t give into separation – zero tolerance – it only reinforces it. Take your stand as the Oneness every day and live each moment from that place as best you can (do not be a perfectionist). Each time you take your stand as Oneness, it decommissions the psychological belief to be separate so that without noticing, it doesn’t both you anymore. Ask for help from a trusted source if needed – don’t be stuck.
