Relating To Oneness

A successful relationship can only be based on loving others for who they are, not what we want them to be. The consciousness we are is a free-flowing creative force. If we end up being attracted to someone who isn’t attracted to us, we are essentially in love with what we think they should be rather than the reality of what they are. This will be picked up by the consciousness they are, and they will feel objectified and will rebel against this naturally and reject us, as we would reject someone if they objectified us. Unfortunately, this objectification is not always apparent at first. It can emerge over time for all sorts of historical reasons. The question then arises: why would we desire someone when they don’t desire us? This is because we have lost touch with what we are, which is this free consciousness. As a result, we feel something is lacking in us that another object – in this case, another person will fill. This is a common mistake in relationships and one we have all made, so no finger-pointing! This mistake gets embedded quickly when biological hormones get involved, designed to make us blind in almost all respects. This is why it is helpful to always assess, if possible, before relating to others as to whether I am aware of and, therefore, at one with my essential nature as consciousness and not an object. One will know early enough because emotional excitement, particularly around the start of the relationship, will be overwhelming and possibly destabilising, and there will be the feeling of losing oneself. The biggest mistake we make in human relationships is falling in love with the thought of a person rather than the experience of love, which is the true nature of mind and body and accepting the person as they are, not through the rose-tinted glasses of whom we want them to be. We have to realise also that this consciousness they are is free floating and may float off at some point, too!

Love

Freyja